Your thoughts are optional…
Reflecting back on all the valuable coaching I have received in the past 7 years. The most valuable sentence is the one above… your thoughts are optional. I got so much relief from hearing that, and actually I had a moment or two of being really pissed off that it could be that simple!!
I laugh about that now, but I was mad because I realized how much wasted time, stress and anxiety I had been causing myself by allowing my thoughts to kick the crap out of me for not measuring up to some unattainable vision I had in my head.
Relief washed over me and I understood at that moment things could change… if I was willing to learn how to really feel my feelings and learn the art of redirecting.
I am so grateful for the process of coaching and learning skills that helped me overcome and manage so much fear and anxiety. I still have fear, I still have anxiety, but I also have tools to use to lovingly question and be curious about all the thoughts that make me uncomfortable, scared, doubtful and unworthy (which was my biggest player in my mind).
We’re all born with everything we need to be amazing. The only actual fears we are born with, is the fear of falling, and loud noises, the rest are learned, can you believe that!?
We learn all of the rest from those that love us, from our friends, from comparing ourselves to others… we create unworthy stories about ourselves.
Coaching helped me recognize those things, UN-learn those things, question those things, redirect those thoughts to supportive, genuine and positive thoughts instead. I’m not talking about toxic positivity where everything is sunshine and puppy dogs (that’s when I was “fine”). I am able to be me, I don’t need to play small to fit in, I don’t need to sacrifice my beliefs to avoid conflict, and pretending to be fine when things were far from fine was my “go to”, but it only caused suffering and isolation.
What could your life look like, what could you accomplish, what dream could become reality if you felt your feelings, redirected your thoughts and believed in yourself?
You’d conquer the world!
Much love,
Chris
